There are two types of people, askers and guessers. Askers will ask a favor without any expectation that you will say yes. Guessers will only ask a favor if they believe there is a high probability that you will say yes. I am a guesser, so I need to recognize that people don’t always expect a “yes” and I have the power to exercise my “no.” Shoutout to Jocelyn K. Glei for blowing my mind apart with this revelation.
If you let go of the assumption that someone expects you to say yes, it actually becomes significantly easier to say no.